When sparks fly




Find someone who makes you feel like a teenager in love for the first time; there’s something about first love at that age....

The naivety that plagues it

The profound ignorance that you’re never quite aware of

The oceans upon oceans of insecurities

The hormones; Sweet Lord! 

The blady hormones!

The sweet combination of lack of responsibilities; that beautiful carefreeness and the ‘just-enough’ emotional intelligence to comprehend the importance of that momentous event; to certain degree sha

Even the brokeness adds it’s own flavor to the whole madness.

It’s truly an amazing phenomenon that should be a legit milestone in the delightful foolishness that is the human experience.

But the true beauty of this phenom isn’t in all the ‘yama yama’ I previously mentioned, it’s absolute wonder lies in the purity of the emotions and the raw feelings that are characterized by this kind of love.

At that age you’re not looking to take advantage of anyone or do anything particularly harmful (special exception to some rotten apples that have never known a day’s innocence)

You’re mostly curious, you’re really just exploring; following your baser instincts to something or someone that every fiber of your being tells you is right for you

You’re not really sure what this means or where it might lead, you just know it’s the best you’ve ever felt in your life and letting go is not even an option.

To make matters worse, you find out that she likes you too

Ewooo ! 

The world’s oxygen supply is suddenly depleted

Everyone needs to evacuate the planet for you and her cause you’re giving her this world and anyone else is surplus to requirements.


Your whole existence suddenly revolves around this fantastic being, she becomes a constant in your thoughts;

When you eat you wonder if she has eaten and what she’d like to eat

When you pick out an outfit you wonder if she likes it

You study hard to impress her with your intelligence (e no go nice make baby girl call you olodo)

When you play football, the way you walk, talk, laugh, everything you do is directly or indirectly connected to her. 

She’s the center and sole benefactor of all your dreams, hopes and aspirations.

It feels so normal that you wonder how you existed before she came into your life

That all encompassing and overwhelming love that fills your entire being and existence is your new normal.

It’s the way she fills your heart with warmth

Your eyes with stars 

And your ears with ringing 

It’s the heat she leaves on your cheeks when  she touches your face

The legions of butterflies that magically occupy your belly from her hugs

And the inexplicable fatigue that descends on your limbs by virtue of her kisses.


One nice word and all other words in your vocabulary disappear

One touch and your soul does somersaults

A smile and you’ve got temporary brain damage

God help you when she finally kisses you

Forksheeet!!! 

For the next hour or so you’ve lived a fulfilled life and you’re ready to meet your maker.

It’s these things that distinguish this kind of love from all other forms of romantic love. It’s equally the most terrifying and ecstatic experience ever; the terror and joy locked in a surreal dance to fuel the most incredible time of your life.


Get you someone who makes you feel this way or reminds you of this feeling. Romantic Love shouldn’t be boring or just filled with lust

It’s not a title or a contract

Neither is it an achievement or inheritance

It’s not something we’re entitled to nor is it something we use as payment for some favor or benefit

it’s not a tool or device, nor is it any of the diabolical or sick things we’ve made it out to be in this sick, dark, sad age

It’s a gift given - not merited, but on the sole basis of the heart’s folly

A gift that should be cherished treasured and nourished to fullness. 

If what you call romantic love doesn’t sound anything like this then you’re most likely doing it wrong or with the wrong person.


So go out into the world today and get you some delightful teenage loving

Open your heart to someone who makes your knees go weak and wobbly, whose smile lifts you at least an inch above ground and whose touch turns your walls to dust. 

Don’t go looking for it in faraway places, but rather find someone close to hold on to; cause I believe distance kills the magic and leaves room for too much darkness. 

Touch her softly but assuredly, explore body with kisses like you’re searching for a lost treasure

Gently caress her beautiful skin like it’s some priceless lost work of art

Kiss her like your life depends on it; drink her essence like it’s the fountain of youth 

Search her soul with your tongue and bare your soul on her lips. 

Hold her close to your body while you whisper sweet words in her ear; words of adoration and devotion that bind your souls. And when you do tell her that you love her; let it rise from the depths of your being so much so that it resonates in the uncharted parts of her heart

And when she proclaims those words power and magic it becomes a melody worthy of angels, your souls fusing as one to produce the most ethereal of harmonies.

I hope you find love today

That you live love

And you become love

❤️

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